ENGA RAMA!

See that Rose garland that my mother made today! I have never seen a more beautiful garland.....just fit for our Ram at Home. Thats Vaduvur Ramar, Pattabi Ramar and a rare picture of Hanumanji that was given to me by my Amma.

Hats off to my mother who makes such beautiful garland everyday.

Faults could be insignificant.......!

My mom had purchased some Madurai Saris for this summer. She is generally fond of sober colours like grey, sand-brown, mud-brown etc...We used to make fun of her often for her choices. This time she had brought some unusual colours. But still there was one grey sitting in the middle of her choices. I told her to give it to someone else, since that's so sober. But she said, she would keep it come what may, because she likes it. She wore it today, and, in fact it was very beautiful and pleasant, that even I liked it so much. I told her, "Mom, sometimes, your choices are good..".

And as we spent time together, I suddenly noticed that there were some insignificant coloured patches at some 3 places in the saree. I showed it to her. She said, "Oh, I did not see them....". I told her, "how does it matter, anyways you like it". She said,  "No...had I seen these patches before, I would not have got the sari."

This was a small conversation, me and my mom had....but this caught my attention so much and I realized one big thing...

"When we like something, we do not see the shortcomings in them. But if we see the faults, we miss the nice things in it....and sometimes even lose what we like."

And I am glad she did not see the small blotches in the sari, before...Had she, she would have really lost something she liked and something that suited her the most.

Do I have to worry...!

Do I have to worry...
when I have a Mother to,

Console me when I cry
Laugh with me when I am happy
Pacify me when I am angry
Boost my spirit up when I am sad

Do I have to be bothered
when I have a Mother who,

Corrects me when I am wrong
Pulls me up when I slip
Teaches me to face life when I fear
Appreciates me when I am right

Do I have to be perturbed
when I have a Mother who,

Motivates me when I am discouraged
Warns me when I am overconfident
Fuels me when I am lazy
Accompanies me when I am alone

Do I have to be concerned
When I have a Mother who,

LOVES me despite my shortcomings
Only has LOVE to give me come what may

Maa, Despite all this you give me, I worry Maa, that I have nothing to give you... I have nothing to give you...
But you still LOVE me!

Beware!' Work' can make you miss beautiful things in life....

Recently, one of my friends took a daring decision of quitting her job to take care of her family. I call it a daring decision because not many girls want to do it today for the fear of 'many things'. I happened to chat with her sometime few weeks ago and realized, there were so many things to learn from her. She worked in an IT industry and one fine day she decided to quit and stay a home maker to the satisfaction of herself. She said she used to feel very insulted initially, when any one called her a house wife. But then she said as she introspected more, she realized she was having a much more peaceful and independent life now. She said to me, " I realized how all these days, I had been under a mask with a false identity. She also expressed, "for some weeks after I quit my job I felt I do not have an identity till I realized How dumb of me to think that being a software engineer is my identity....!

A conversation with her has made me think and as I recalled this story 'Forty five a month' from Malgudi days....I realized 'we' are all cowards clad in a false outfit.

For those who have not read 'Malgudi days', you can watch this short story, here:

Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtWVxLg5jD0
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EdwGWjxCNO0
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pl918TwQcE

In this beautiful story RKN has effectively expressed how work can drive us crazy and make us miss those beautiful little things in life. I just loved it!

With the limited thinking ability, why do we try to analyse HER??!

A mother takes her child for an outing. The child is adamant to have an attractive sweet from a road side shop. The mother warns the child that it is not made in good oil and will upset the stomach. But the child is very adamant and continues throwing tantrums in the middle of the road and finally the mother yields to her son's wish. She gets the the sweet at last for her son. The child is happy and relishes the sweet joyfully.
A couple of days later, the child suffers from a severe stomach pain, high fever and heavy diarrhea. Mom is panicky. She runs to the doctor immediately, runs up and down to the chemist and laboratories carrying the child. She hardly sleeps. Until the child gets well, she also undergoes the pain along with the child. And because of the mother's touch the child experiences 'no pain' that it would have had otherwise. There is infection, there are symptoms, there is pain; but the child does not 'FEEL THE PAIN'!

Now, as a passive observer of this incident, can WE blame the mother for the 'pain' the child undergoes? or can we blame the child's ignorance for the 'pain' it undergoes?

The mother knew that this would happen. But the child was adamant. The mother yielded. But again when the child was in pain, it is mother to his rescue!

People who see the child feel sorry for the child looking at 'his state'! But the child has no pain because he is in his mother's arms always! You can pity the child, blame the mother, because you also love the child....But remember that "YOU CAN'T LOVE THE CHILD MORE THAN HIS MOTHER!"

'Infact, When the child did not eat the sweet, he was normal, he was 'painless'.
But now he is enjoying the pleasure of his mother's cuddle!'

Ipadithaan, Ammavala sila vishyangala thadukka mudinjalum, sila samayam Ava thadukradhila. Aana kashta padumbodhu adha Ava vedikka pakradhum illa! Adhunala.... AMMA mela kova padradhla arthame illa!

She is 'KARUNA RASA SAAGARA'!

Trust me...please!

Sometimes when we travel, we do get into the wrong bus by mistake. And when we realize, we get down immediately....We do not wait for the bus to reach its final destination, to get down...nor do we force the driver to drive to the place where we were supposed to go...nor do we change our place of visit just because we got into this bus. It is funny if someone tells you to change your place of visit. It is cruel if someone orders you to force the driver to go to your place of interest and it is stupid to wait for the final destination, to get down.

And it is pathetic if someone without understanding what has happened keeps telling to you..."Sab Sahi tho hai...Sab Sahi tho hai!!"I am not able to understand these people who tell you "hey, dont get down, this is a nice bus..it runs smoothly....", without even understanding what your problem is....!!!
To all such people I only request, "please trust me, I know what I am doing.."!!

The law of garbage truck

I have just copied and pasted a forwarded message! Although it is not original., I thought today is the right time to put it in my blog.
Here read it..

The law of garbage truck!
How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood ???? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly one can get back their focus on what's important.
David J. Pollay explains his story in this way....

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean...he was friendly. So, I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, "The Law of the
Garbage Truck."
"?Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage,full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them,they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did."

I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over
me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Love the people
who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that
everything happens for a reason. Never let the garbage truck run over."

Reading this did help me realize, I should not take garbage!